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| Italy 1991 |
That's the problem with being an independent girl. You think you can do everything yourself. Until you find you can't. Be it dealing with the hanging of lamps, getting rid of pain or dealing with major upheavals, sometimes you just need help!
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| With Camille (lap) and Jean |
When I was growing up and told my parents what I wanted to be or more precisely where I wanted to be it (au-pair in England), it wasn't looked upon as a good thing for me as I was a bit too young and still too dependent. So, I didn't become an au-pair in England (got to be one in Brussels, Belgium a few years later though).
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It might not have won any beauty contests,
but my sister and I made this ourselves! |
My second home lacked some lighting and shelving I liked, so I asked my dad to come and help me out. Very happy with the lighting and the shelves were only a tiny bit off. But not enough to let the books slip off, so it was okay.
Moving to another country means that as independent as you are, you will need some help at some point. From packing to getting rid of stuff, from help finding a new place to dealing with all the red tape.
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I definitely needed help coming down this
rock slide! |
Dealing with a major upheaval (like the move, the accident, the operation) can mean a major upheaval in your head as well and instead of doing it alone, being independent, I decided I needed some professional help to deal with it all.
I can do it myself. But having help from friends and family and on occasion strangers is the best thing to independence. As long as
you can choose when to get help and don't have it thrusted on you and it smothering you.
This post is prompted by Spin Cycle. Thank you Ginny Marie at
Lemon Drop Pie.
An independent girl who is dependent ! That makes sense, lol ! I am only dependent when I am too lazy or if I don't like the thing I have to do !
ReplyDeleteYou were a real beauty in 1991 !
Hari OM
ReplyDeleteAs an indie gal, I totally 'get' this... and understand what you mean about those who feel they have to 'rescue' one! Very nicely voiced Mara. YAM xx
Mind you, it's not always easy asking for help or allowing others to just help without being asked. Even when needed!
Delete...this is very true.... a delicate balance! Yxx
DeleteI just love that last picture of you! It belongs on the back of a book cover! Awesome post, Mara!
ReplyDeleteWE are Big on the Do It Yourself thingys, too.
ReplyDeleteYes, we are pretty independent at our house too!
ReplyDeleteYour Pals,
Murphy & Stanley
I enjoy the challenge of trying to do things for myself but there are certain things that I need to turn to family and friends for help. You are so right about knowing when to ask.
ReplyDeleteYou have really accomplished a lot of things so far in your life!
ReplyDeleteIt's a lot of work when you are moving, and moving to another country...pheeeww even more work :)
ReplyDeleteWhen you are moving in the same country, you at least know how things are done. But moving to another country? I needed documents, I needed to get a new bank account, social security number and everything else that makes up a life. And that's not even counting the stuff you bring or don't bring along. How to pick, how to pack.
DeleteNeat post covering several periods and scenarios.
ReplyDeleteYou have done a lot to be proud of, and handled it with grace.
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