tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post2079727679869634370..comments2024-03-10T10:12:47.522+01:00Comments on Weighty matters: PolitenessMarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04464946195661953578noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-24411180993265572482010-08-01T21:29:57.031+02:002010-08-01T21:29:57.031+02:00I blame it on classes like Mommy and Me-
We (in t...I blame it on classes like Mommy and Me- <br />We (in the US) went through a period where we were told that for the good of our child's psyches, we should be their friends, and gently nudge their behavior with only positive words- it was during this time we dropped the signs of respect.<br />When I was studying to teach preschool about 20 years ago- I was taught to say to a kid "the chair is not for standing on" rather than "get off the chair!". I was taught to ask them to do stuff- not tell them. Teachers often ended their sentences with the word "OK?" as did parents.<br />wait! why the heck should I ever ask a kid OK? I ask them "you understand what I am telling you?" but never ok, as if I need their permission to scold them! we are the adults- they are the kids. period.<br />It doesn't give adults the right to hurt or badger a kid unnecessarily- we can't mistreat them. but we sure as heck can lead them ,expect things from them, and scold them if they don't listen! I am parent or teacher first and foremost. I'll be friendly, but not your best friend!<br /><br />and I do agree about pepperfly's pope comment. I hate organized religion :)K(Banterings of a Basketcase)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17926370065535783676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-13669313917332367352010-08-01T19:46:36.904+02:002010-08-01T19:46:36.904+02:00Our culture tends not respect others, especially e...Our culture tends not respect others, especially elders enough. Others are different: for example, the younger South Korean man next door to me, always calls me sir. I must tell him not to.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-16723153494433682182010-07-31T21:54:22.260+02:002010-07-31T21:54:22.260+02:00Lose the Pope, and the world will be a better plac...Lose the Pope, and the world will be a better place! <i>(Although I do agree with you on the 'You' thing, and I DO want them to respect you, don't get me wrong here, but I will NEVER, EVER teach my children to pay respect to any pope.)</i>pepperflyhttp://www.pepperfly.nlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-47442409392463016802010-07-31T21:16:39.188+02:002010-07-31T21:16:39.188+02:00I agree totally. I taught my children to have resp...I agree totally. I taught my children to have respect for their elders and I am very proud of them and the respect they have for others.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-67416651409436796322010-07-31T16:53:33.800+02:002010-07-31T16:53:33.800+02:00You can say you to me ;-)You can say you to me ;-)Carolinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288856854422999687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1459431979539476850.post-5997989619001650662010-07-31T16:31:53.410+02:002010-07-31T16:31:53.410+02:00In the south, it is supposed to be Mrs. So and So...In the south, it is supposed to be Mrs. So and So, then Miss (First Name). Unfortunately, in the north no such distinctions are made.<br />I would love to see some graciousness return to society.Misfit in Paradisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13324459879738127303noreply@blogger.com